new year, new mindset – resolution to end singlehood

Just the other day, a friend was sharing her new year resolution with me – to find herself a guy. She was tired of being single.

“Sick of it!” she emphasised. It wasn’t the first time she expressed her frustrations of being single in these two months. Since her failed relationship which left her waiting and hoping for her ex-boyfriend for an arduous long time, it was only last year that she finally came full circle and decided to let go.

How ideal it would have been if a suitable guy had come along the very moment she decided to move on. But life is not always easy, isn’t it? Not even for a pretty, smart and successful career girl like her.

When she stated her resolution, I thought to myself, “Wow, is she determined or what?” It wasn’t her firm desire to have a boyfriend that impressed me, but more so her courage to set the goal in stone.

How many of us refuse to list our resolutions to avoid the dread of being confronted by our own broken promises at the end of the year? I’m sure there are many, myself included.

But there she was proclaiming her resolution. She was serious, and I believed her. Her determination was obvious, even contagious.

It doesn’t mean that she’s suddenly on a predatory hunt for the perfect man. But, she was consciously making a decision to step out of a cycle – the cycle of time and personal comfort.

It’s strange isn’t it, how our seeming flexibility, patience and willingness to “go with the flow” can actually be a trap that entrenches us in the very position we did not wish to remain long in the first place? It’s ironic how “going with the flow” can in fact cause a person to be stagnant.

She realized that she could be waiting all her life for that flow to work in her favour. So she decided she’s given time enough time. And what had long been a passive desire is now an active goal.

It’s amazing how we can set our minds and change our approach to achieving something just by viewing it in a different perspective.