quote of the day

When you're faced with a dilemma...
Just toss a coin...
not because it will help you decide...
but because you will then learn what your heart is hoping for
while the coin is in the air.

quote of the day

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quote of the day

Love does not consist in gazing at each other,
but in looking outward in the same direction.

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

love is the beauty of the soul

Love is a temporary madness.
It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides.
And when it subsides you have to make a decision.
You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together
that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.
Because this is what love is.

Love is not breathlessness,
it is not excitement,
it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion.
That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are.

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away,
and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.
Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground,
and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches
we found that we were one tree and not two.

Captain Corelli's Mandolin6

time

“Time is too slow for those who wait,
too swift for those who fear,
too long for those who grieve,
too short for those who rejoice,
but for those who love,
time is eternity."

Henry Van Dyke

quote of the day

no one is worth my tears; and one who is will not make me cry

straight from the horse's mouth

Just yesterday, two men were in my office, servicing the printer. For a couple of servicemen on the job, they sure talked a lot… and loudly too.

So while I was minding my own business at my desk, I couldn't help but overhear their conversation.

They were chatting about several different topics when Guy A started sharing his problems to Guy B. He talked about his mother, brother and basically sighed a lot.

Guy A: itulah… banyak benda (see… there’s plenty of problems)
Guy B: alah kau dah kahwin ape (well, at least you’re already married)
I suppose Guy B was consoling him that at least he wasn’t alone in this.
Guy A: kahwin? Kahwin, tak kahwin… kahwin tu untuk lepaskan nafsu (married? Marriage makes no difference. Marriage is just to relieve your lust)

I was appalled! I felt like turning around and smacking Guy A’s bloody face. But then it wouldn’t be worth it – he’s not worth it.

It reminded me of this episode of this Malay programme I caught on Suria called Mahligai Kaca (it basically means “Glass Castle”… aptly captures the fragility of marriage). I was told that the storylines were derived from real family court cases, although I’m not too sure about the accuracy of this.

But I must say the programme was an eye-opener. I only managed to catch one episode, which happened to be the last one.

It was about this lady who’s been divorced twice but doesn’t give up her search for the perfect man. She finally fell in love with a man, also divorced.

However, her good friend and even the man’s ex-wife advised her not to marry him. They warned that he’s a womanizer and that he could turn abusive. But she turned a deaf ear on them and chose to follow her heart instead.

However, just a few weeks before the wedding, she started to have doubts about him. But by then, all the wedding invites were sent out and in her opinion, it was simply too late to back out. So she proceeded with the wedding any way, praying that she had been wrong to doubt him.

Sadly, just three days after the wedding, he started not coming home, preferring to keep himself busy in the company of other women. When his friends reminded him that he was married, he replied something along the lines of:

“I get married so that I do not have to commit a sin. Having a wife means you can have ‘it’ anytime you want, without resorting to visits to back alleys. A wife saves you costs.”

While I was disgusted with that notion, at the back of my mind, it was just an actor delivering his lines.

Nothing beats the disgust of hearing the actual words from a man himself.
N o t h i n g .

Food for thought:
We often wonder if we're marrying for the wrong reasons.
But how often do we wonder if the man isn't marrying for the wrong reason?

So I shall quote this from Mahligai Kaca which I think is very true:

"It's easy to find a man, but it’s not easy to find a husband.”

there is no sun and there is no sound

I awake to see no light shining bright through my window.
I awake to feel an empty beating and an empty room.
I awake to hear the sound of the silence with all of its sorrow.
I awake to smell the scent of something I know.
Something is missing. Something is not in its place. Something hurts.
Something, something, that something is you.


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quote of the day

"A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person."

:)

quote of the day

how do you know he is a great guy?

he makes you feel good!
~ wondering heart

How's that for the quote of the day? It came to me like an epiphany. I thought it was brilliant (*grin... ego moment here). I ripped... err I was inspired by a quotation I spotted on a wall :)

It's true isn't it? A great guy would love you for who you are, flaws and all. He puts you at ease, motivates you and is always there for you. In short, he makes you feel good!

"I must bubble this," I thought to myself and snapped a photo of the original quotation (yes people, it's only right to cite your sources).


Then I realised that all around it were 'buaya' (crocodile) soft toys.

Suddenly it occurred to me that 'buayas' (playboys) too prey on unsuspecting girls by making them feel good, just to obtain what they want. With their own flirty ways and whispers of sweet nothings, the 'relationship' always come to nought, and the girls left feeling cheated.

Hmm not so great after all huh?

So it seems that my brilliant inspired quote has a loophole.

Damn!