i think this blog has gathered so much dust that it should be chucked. apologies to our readers (if there are any left). we've been bad, bad hearties.
not making any excuses for myself but work's been really crazy these few months. it's only january but i've got my project schedule lined up all the way to june. and already i'm feeling so burnt out that i'm thinking of planning my much deserved vacation in july! yes, already!
i love what i do, but it doesn't help that i'm the only one left in the dept, after my manager left in november. yeap, been holding the fort all by myself.
more bad news is that all my weekends in may are going to be packed with pr events. bad coz one of my dearest gal pals is getting married in may and i'm the bridesmaid! somehow, i need to squeeze my time to plan a bridal shower for her then. and i'm praying that i dont have to work on the weekend of her wedding!!!
speaking of weddings, 2010 is really THE year i think. 2 colleagues already got hitched this year, with one more in june. another 2 in the pipeline, both of which, i'll be the bridesmaid. hee. not sure what i'm supposed to do really. i hope my duties are just just to stand beside them, hold/answer their hps, fan them occasionally and look pretty. and of coz, check out the groom's single male frens :P
when my mom found out tat my frens are getting married, i was kinda worried what her reaction would be. i thought she'd be pressurising me even more, now that most of my frens are officially off the market.
but to my surprise, it was quite the opposite. mom told me that she and my dad thinks that i shldnt rush to just choose anyone, and that its ok i take my time, as long as the 'candidate' is a good guy (in her words, "biar lambat, asalkan dapat yang bagus").
what a different tune they're singing now. but of coz, i'm glad and thankful for that. i guess they didnt want me to get upset and just find someone to marry coz of peer pressure, and to keep up with the jones.
so while i pelan-pelan kayuh to look for mr right, i got plenty of work to occupy my time with. well, at least until june :)
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Monday, January 18, 2010
top 5 of 2009
1. When I say never, always or forever, it rarely works out.
Lesson learnt: Never say never.
2. When I have notions of the future in my head, they almost never come true (for eg imagining how my wedding or future house is like. HAHA!).
Lesson learnt: Stop daydreaming!
3. Things happen when I least expect it. It applies for the good and the bad.
Lesson learnt: Never let my guard down and always expect the worst. (oops, broke lesson #1!). Lemme rephrase that to: go in with zero expectations but don’t lose faith in people and that things could be better. A bit tricky to do, and still trying to strike a balance here.
4. I tend to second guess myself after a decision is made. And more often than not, it’s too late to make amends or change my choice when I do change my mind afterwards.
Lesson learnt: Think before I speak. After that, think twice. And don’t shoot my mouth off.
5. What one consider to be honesty may be taken as inconsiderate and insensitive by others.
Lesson learnt: Refer to #4.
i'm not one for new year resolutions, and it IS a bit late now. but hopefully, by putting these down, i will be constantly reminded to be wiser in my choices.
Lesson learnt: Never say never.
2. When I have notions of the future in my head, they almost never come true (for eg imagining how my wedding or future house is like. HAHA!).
Lesson learnt: Stop daydreaming!
3. Things happen when I least expect it. It applies for the good and the bad.
Lesson learnt: Never let my guard down and always expect the worst. (oops, broke lesson #1!). Lemme rephrase that to: go in with zero expectations but don’t lose faith in people and that things could be better. A bit tricky to do, and still trying to strike a balance here.
4. I tend to second guess myself after a decision is made. And more often than not, it’s too late to make amends or change my choice when I do change my mind afterwards.
Lesson learnt: Think before I speak. After that, think twice. And don’t shoot my mouth off.
5. What one consider to be honesty may be taken as inconsiderate and insensitive by others.
Lesson learnt: Refer to #4.
i'm not one for new year resolutions, and it IS a bit late now. but hopefully, by putting these down, i will be constantly reminded to be wiser in my choices.
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Friday, January 8, 2010
straight from the horse's mouth
Just yesterday, two men were in my office, servicing the printer. For a couple of servicemen on the job, they sure talked a lot… and loudly too.
So while I was minding my own business at my desk, I couldn't help but overhear their conversation.
They were chatting about several different topics when Guy A started sharing his problems to Guy B. He talked about his mother, brother and basically sighed a lot.
I was appalled! I felt like turning around and smacking Guy A’s bloody face. But then it wouldn’t be worth it – he’s not worth it.
It reminded me of this episode of this Malay programme I caught on Suria called Mahligai Kaca (it basically means “Glass Castle”… aptly captures the fragility of marriage). I was told that the storylines were derived from real family court cases, although I’m not too sure about the accuracy of this.
But I must say the programme was an eye-opener. I only managed to catch one episode, which happened to be the last one.
It was about this lady who’s been divorced twice but doesn’t give up her search for the perfect man. She finally fell in love with a man, also divorced.
However, her good friend and even the man’s ex-wife advised her not to marry him. They warned that he’s a womanizer and that he could turn abusive. But she turned a deaf ear on them and chose to follow her heart instead.
However, just a few weeks before the wedding, she started to have doubts about him. But by then, all the wedding invites were sent out and in her opinion, it was simply too late to back out. So she proceeded with the wedding any way, praying that she had been wrong to doubt him.
Sadly, just three days after the wedding, he started not coming home, preferring to keep himself busy in the company of other women. When his friends reminded him that he was married, he replied something along the lines of:
While I was disgusted with that notion, at the back of my mind, it was just an actor delivering his lines.
Nothing beats the disgust of hearing the actual words from a man himself.
N o t h i n g .
Food for thought:
We often wonder if we're marrying for the wrong reasons.
But how often do we wonder if the man isn't marrying for the wrong reason?
So I shall quote this from Mahligai Kaca which I think is very true:
So while I was minding my own business at my desk, I couldn't help but overhear their conversation.
They were chatting about several different topics when Guy A started sharing his problems to Guy B. He talked about his mother, brother and basically sighed a lot.
Guy A: itulah… banyak benda (see… there’s plenty of problems)
Guy B: alah kau dah kahwin ape (well, at least you’re already married)
I suppose Guy B was consoling him that at least he wasn’t alone in this.
Guy A: kahwin? Kahwin, tak kahwin… kahwin tu untuk lepaskan nafsu (married? Marriage makes no difference. Marriage is just to relieve your lust)
I was appalled! I felt like turning around and smacking Guy A’s bloody face. But then it wouldn’t be worth it – he’s not worth it.
It reminded me of this episode of this Malay programme I caught on Suria called Mahligai Kaca (it basically means “Glass Castle”… aptly captures the fragility of marriage). I was told that the storylines were derived from real family court cases, although I’m not too sure about the accuracy of this.
But I must say the programme was an eye-opener. I only managed to catch one episode, which happened to be the last one.
It was about this lady who’s been divorced twice but doesn’t give up her search for the perfect man. She finally fell in love with a man, also divorced.
However, her good friend and even the man’s ex-wife advised her not to marry him. They warned that he’s a womanizer and that he could turn abusive. But she turned a deaf ear on them and chose to follow her heart instead.
However, just a few weeks before the wedding, she started to have doubts about him. But by then, all the wedding invites were sent out and in her opinion, it was simply too late to back out. So she proceeded with the wedding any way, praying that she had been wrong to doubt him.
Sadly, just three days after the wedding, he started not coming home, preferring to keep himself busy in the company of other women. When his friends reminded him that he was married, he replied something along the lines of:
“I get married so that I do not have to commit a sin. Having a wife means you can have ‘it’ anytime you want, without resorting to visits to back alleys. A wife saves you costs.”
While I was disgusted with that notion, at the back of my mind, it was just an actor delivering his lines.
Nothing beats the disgust of hearing the actual words from a man himself.
N o t h i n g .
Food for thought:
We often wonder if we're marrying for the wrong reasons.
But how often do we wonder if the man isn't marrying for the wrong reason?
So I shall quote this from Mahligai Kaca which I think is very true:
"It's easy to find a man, but it’s not easy to find a husband.”
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