this time, i'm really living up to my name.
my head is devoid of any ideas/inspirations/thoughts for this blog. and i *think* i've documented all my dating chronicles. or those worth mentioning, anyway. sorry, my fellow hearties!
i do have some stuff in my head. but it's a bit too emotional to blog about at the moment.
in due time (and soon, i hope!).
Friday, August 21, 2009
Saturday, August 15, 2009
same guy, same agenda
Was checking my mail and was about to delete what I thought was typical spam when I realised I knew the name of the 'sender'.
Apparently I've been added as a friend on "SpeedDate.com" by the guy whom I thought is married. Sigh.
Previous readers may remember him from my previous entry (click here to read).
URGH!
Apparently I've been added as a friend on "SpeedDate.com" by the guy whom I thought is married. Sigh.
Previous readers may remember him from my previous entry (click here to read).
URGH!
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
the one whom I slept with
I don't believe I have ever confided this secret in anyone. But I figured since I'm protected by anonymity...
Though it happened years ago, I still remember the scene...
My eyes lifted slowly...
a distinct humming sound in the background...
my body lurched forward slightly in gentle inertia.
I tilted my head slightly to my right.
There he was sleeping next to me. Our heads against each other with mine resting on his shoulders.
Then stealthily and gradually, I inched my head away from him, secretly hoping I wouldn't wake him up cos I wouldn't know what to say. When we were finally apart, I sat upright and straightened my back, trying to look as nonchalant as best I could.
I remember darting my eyes around the environment I was in.
I remember sighing in relief and thinking, "Thank god I didn't miss my bus stop".
Though it happened years ago, I still remember the scene...
My eyes lifted slowly...
a distinct humming sound in the background...
my body lurched forward slightly in gentle inertia.
I tilted my head slightly to my right.
There he was sleeping next to me. Our heads against each other with mine resting on his shoulders.
Then stealthily and gradually, I inched my head away from him, secretly hoping I wouldn't wake him up cos I wouldn't know what to say. When we were finally apart, I sat upright and straightened my back, trying to look as nonchalant as best I could.
I remember darting my eyes around the environment I was in.
I remember sighing in relief and thinking, "Thank god I didn't miss my bus stop".
Friday, August 7, 2009
gabe bondoc
Fell in love the moment I heard him. Especially love the lyrics of his original songs.
Here's the oh-so-adorable singer songwriter with the first song I heard, "Dorm Room"
"Dictionary" makes me smile... cool concept :)
And "Temporary" almost made me tear
Here's the oh-so-adorable singer songwriter with the first song I heard, "Dorm Room"
"Dictionary" makes me smile... cool concept :)
And "Temporary" almost made me tear
Sunday, August 2, 2009
doormat. definitely.
why do men love bitches?
apparently, i'm not the only asking coz there's a book with that title. which i'm reading now.
before i go on, let me give you the definition of a bitch in this book. (please retract your claws now, all you real biatches reading this. thankyou.)
here, bitch doesn't mean 1) a female dog or female species of any canine or 2) a malicious, unpleasant, selfish person, esp. a woman.
it just refers to a woman who stands her ground in a relationship, someone not afraid to voice her opinions when the situation calls for it and one who wont compromise the most important thing, her dignity and self-respect, for any man.
this lady has that je ne sais quoi, translating to 'i don't know what.' basically it's that something special that men cant seem to put their finger on, but are drawn to nonetheless.
it's not about looks; gorgeous women get dumped and end up with jerks too.
it's not about intelligence; even the not-so-smarts are known to possess this quality.
so what is this attribute? it is a woman that's comfortable in her own skin.
the opposite of the bitch is... the 'nice girl', or a less pleasant term used in the book, a doormat.
she's described as one who gives everything blindly to a man (even when they just get into a rship), because she wants so much for her actions to be reciprocated. she's the one who goes along with what she thinks her man will like or want because she wants to keep him at all cost.
to further explain the difference between the two, here are some case scenarios:
#1 He calls you and expects you to be at home
the nice girl will let the guy know she's leaving, where she'll be and wat time she'll be back
the bitch lets him think about where she is now and then. no 'reporting strength' here :P
#2 He says he'll call at ard a certain time. the call is 4 hours late
the nice girl yells at him and says she's worried, "you should have called!!"
the bitch isnt so easily upset, so she's harder to read. even if he does call, she may not even pick up the phone
#3 He seems withdrawn, pensive, nt particularly talkative
the nice girl continually pesters him and asks, "what are you thinking about?" she's worried he's pulling away from her.
the bitch is in her own thoughts, she doesn't panic, which makes him come her way.
#4 He is late for a date and keeps her waiting
the nice girl waits, calls him incessantly and tells him that he should 'value her more'
the bitch waits for half an hour, then make other plans
going back to the main question here, why are men so attracted to bitches? the difference here isn't so much about how you treat the guy. it's how you treat yourself. we may think that by giving a man extra tender, loving care, he will stay by your side. but mostly, that's not always enough. for most men, it'll make them run away even, especially if you give too much in the beginning.
let's face it. men love the thrill of the chase. if someone comes across as too 'easy' for them, they lose interest quickly. but when he sees you as a mental challenge, his interest is piqued and he'll try harder to get you. even after he gets the girl, he'll treasure her more. after all, he did have to put up a fight to get to where he is. imagine a child who's given a shiny new toy for christmas as opposed to one he bought himself after saving up for months. which do you think he'd treasure more? :)
in case you're wondering which one you are, they even had an "are you too nice" quiz. a test in which i failed miserably. lol! i shan't pose the questions here, you go read it yourself if you're interested :P
but here are 10 characteristics of the bitch mentioned in the book, where you may ascertain for yourself whether you are one or the other :)
1. she maintains her independence - she earns her keeps, not depending on her man or with her hand out to anyone.
2. she doesnt pursue him - the moon, the sun and the stars don't revolve ard him. she doesn't chase or keep tabs on him, he is NOT the centre of the world.
3. she is mysterious - this isn't about being dishonest. she doesnt lie but she doesnt reveal everything and wont put her cards on the table too soon. familiarity breeds contempt and predictability breeds boredom.
4. she leaves him wanting - she doesnt see him every night or leave him long messages. shes not always available to him, which leaves him to long for her.
5. she doesnt let him see her sweat - she avoids communication when upset. she clears her head first, making sure shes rational and speaks in a "bottom line" way.
6. she remains in control of her time - she takes it slow, especially when he wants to hurry. all in her time, preventing him from controlling her.
7. she maintains a sense of humour - this lets him now shes detached. but she doesnt treat disrespect as a laughing matter.
8. she places a high value on herself - she appreciates a compliment. she doesnt ask what his ex looked like or compare herself to other women.
9. she is passionate about something other than him - when he feels that he's not the "be all and end all" of her existence, it makes her more desirable. and staying busy ensures she isnt resentful when he's unavailable.
10. she treats her body like a finely tuned machine - she maintains her appearance and health. a person's self-respect is reflected on how she maintains her image. if he tells her he doesnt like red lipstick, she wears it anyway, coz it makes her feel good.
bitch or doormat, i think the above is pretty solid advice for any woman to take, whether she is single or attached; seeking for love or not.
apparently, i'm not the only asking coz there's a book with that title. which i'm reading now.
before i go on, let me give you the definition of a bitch in this book. (please retract your claws now, all you real biatches reading this. thankyou.)
here, bitch doesn't mean 1) a female dog or female species of any canine or 2) a malicious, unpleasant, selfish person, esp. a woman.
it just refers to a woman who stands her ground in a relationship, someone not afraid to voice her opinions when the situation calls for it and one who wont compromise the most important thing, her dignity and self-respect, for any man.
this lady has that je ne sais quoi, translating to 'i don't know what.' basically it's that something special that men cant seem to put their finger on, but are drawn to nonetheless.
it's not about looks; gorgeous women get dumped and end up with jerks too.
it's not about intelligence; even the not-so-smarts are known to possess this quality.
so what is this attribute? it is a woman that's comfortable in her own skin.
the opposite of the bitch is... the 'nice girl', or a less pleasant term used in the book, a doormat.
she's described as one who gives everything blindly to a man (even when they just get into a rship), because she wants so much for her actions to be reciprocated. she's the one who goes along with what she thinks her man will like or want because she wants to keep him at all cost.
to further explain the difference between the two, here are some case scenarios:
#1 He calls you and expects you to be at home
the nice girl will let the guy know she's leaving, where she'll be and wat time she'll be back
the bitch lets him think about where she is now and then. no 'reporting strength' here :P
#2 He says he'll call at ard a certain time. the call is 4 hours late
the nice girl yells at him and says she's worried, "you should have called!!"
the bitch isnt so easily upset, so she's harder to read. even if he does call, she may not even pick up the phone
#3 He seems withdrawn, pensive, nt particularly talkative
the nice girl continually pesters him and asks, "what are you thinking about?" she's worried he's pulling away from her.
the bitch is in her own thoughts, she doesn't panic, which makes him come her way.
#4 He is late for a date and keeps her waiting
the nice girl waits, calls him incessantly and tells him that he should 'value her more'
the bitch waits for half an hour, then make other plans
going back to the main question here, why are men so attracted to bitches? the difference here isn't so much about how you treat the guy. it's how you treat yourself. we may think that by giving a man extra tender, loving care, he will stay by your side. but mostly, that's not always enough. for most men, it'll make them run away even, especially if you give too much in the beginning.
let's face it. men love the thrill of the chase. if someone comes across as too 'easy' for them, they lose interest quickly. but when he sees you as a mental challenge, his interest is piqued and he'll try harder to get you. even after he gets the girl, he'll treasure her more. after all, he did have to put up a fight to get to where he is. imagine a child who's given a shiny new toy for christmas as opposed to one he bought himself after saving up for months. which do you think he'd treasure more? :)
in case you're wondering which one you are, they even had an "are you too nice" quiz. a test in which i failed miserably. lol! i shan't pose the questions here, you go read it yourself if you're interested :P
but here are 10 characteristics of the bitch mentioned in the book, where you may ascertain for yourself whether you are one or the other :)
1. she maintains her independence - she earns her keeps, not depending on her man or with her hand out to anyone.
2. she doesnt pursue him - the moon, the sun and the stars don't revolve ard him. she doesn't chase or keep tabs on him, he is NOT the centre of the world.
3. she is mysterious - this isn't about being dishonest. she doesnt lie but she doesnt reveal everything and wont put her cards on the table too soon. familiarity breeds contempt and predictability breeds boredom.
4. she leaves him wanting - she doesnt see him every night or leave him long messages. shes not always available to him, which leaves him to long for her.
5. she doesnt let him see her sweat - she avoids communication when upset. she clears her head first, making sure shes rational and speaks in a "bottom line" way.
6. she remains in control of her time - she takes it slow, especially when he wants to hurry. all in her time, preventing him from controlling her.
7. she maintains a sense of humour - this lets him now shes detached. but she doesnt treat disrespect as a laughing matter.
8. she places a high value on herself - she appreciates a compliment. she doesnt ask what his ex looked like or compare herself to other women.
9. she is passionate about something other than him - when he feels that he's not the "be all and end all" of her existence, it makes her more desirable. and staying busy ensures she isnt resentful when he's unavailable.
10. she treats her body like a finely tuned machine - she maintains her appearance and health. a person's self-respect is reflected on how she maintains her image. if he tells her he doesnt like red lipstick, she wears it anyway, coz it makes her feel good.
bitch or doormat, i think the above is pretty solid advice for any woman to take, whether she is single or attached; seeking for love or not.
Thursday, July 30, 2009
love guru vs love victims
It seems that my once-in-a-blue-moon nocturnal appearances in msn have always been greeted by love victims. Never mind that I’ve no credentials in Psychology whatsoever or that I’m no love guru myself - they don’t seem to care.
I can’t help but suspect that few of them are lying in wait, all ready to test the threshold of my patience.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m always happy to offer a listening ear and my honest opinion, especially so when a good friend of mine is concerned. But pleaaaseeee…. if you ever need to talk, don’t ask me for my opinion once and then again, and again, and again just cos my initial reply wasn’t what you wanted to hear.
Anyway, thought I’d compile a few of them here in case there were similar love victims.
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CASE 1:
To guys:
Firstly, if there’s anything a girl hates, it’s deceit.
Secondly, please think with your brain, not with your …
Interest based on physical attraction alone cannot withstand the test of time.
To girls:
If a guy tells you that you both have lots in common, take it with a pinch of salt.
Then wait and see.
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CASE 2:
To guys:
What is the objective of lying again? A girl who learns that she has been struck off your list will similarly strike you off HER list.
To girls:
This is a rare case. If a guy says he’s over you, no need for second-guessing - he means it.
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CASE 3:
To guys:
Best friend?!!!
If you’ve found a soul mate in a girl, that means she’s THE one. Don’t let her go.
Isn’t it obvious?
To girls:
If a guy fails to see or acknowledge just how important you are in his life, LEAVE!
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CASE 4:
To guys:
Come clean.
To girls:
Good guys are hard to find but good friends are even harder.
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So there, hopefully, by doing this, I’ll be sparing friends of love victims the agony of repeating their advices over and over again.
Anyway, a couple of updates:
Case 1: Guy snaps out of love blindness and finally displays signs of common sense.
Case 3: Guy and Girl are now in a relationship – yes, they realized that they’re meant for each other… finally, heh.
Note: the love victims were males
I can’t help but suspect that few of them are lying in wait, all ready to test the threshold of my patience.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m always happy to offer a listening ear and my honest opinion, especially so when a good friend of mine is concerned. But pleaaaseeee…. if you ever need to talk, don’t ask me for my opinion once and then again, and again, and again just cos my initial reply wasn’t what you wanted to hear.
Anyway, thought I’d compile a few of them here in case there were similar love victims.
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CASE 1:
Guy is interested in Girl, who is pretty and popular. Guy asked Girl out, she accepts invitation. Date went “alright” although “alright” really meant “different” which really, really meant “awkward cos there weren’t many things in common”.
Girl loves cutesy annoying songs which Guy absolutely detests. But Guy complements them anyway. “Nice,” Guy said. He even pretends to enjoy the music when he is actually gagging. 'Isn’t this what they term as “sacrifice”?'
Guy believes that love is blind and that he is behaving how he is because he is in love with her.
To guys:
Firstly, if there’s anything a girl hates, it’s deceit.
Secondly, please think with your brain, not with your …
Interest based on physical attraction alone cannot withstand the test of time.
To girls:
If a guy tells you that you both have lots in common, take it with a pinch of salt.
Then wait and see.
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CASE 2:
Guy likes Girl. But something came between them and they lost touch. Finally, somehow the friendship was rekindled.
Then Guy confesses to Girl that he used to like her. At the same time he assures her that the feelings are long gone – he lied. He didn’t want her to run away.
To guys:
What is the objective of lying again? A girl who learns that she has been struck off your list will similarly strike you off HER list.
To girls:
This is a rare case. If a guy says he’s over you, no need for second-guessing - he means it.
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CASE 3:
Guy loses sleep over quarrel with best friend, Girl. He is unable to focus at work, and is trying all sorts of methods to seek her forgiveness. He doesn’t even realize that he has stopped courting another girl he was interested in.
“She’s my best friend, my soul mate,” Guy said regretfully as he recalls all the hurt he had caused her. He explains that she know him best and feels terrible at the thought of losing the friendship.
To guys:
Best friend?!!!
If you’ve found a soul mate in a girl, that means she’s THE one. Don’t let her go.
Isn’t it obvious?
To girls:
If a guy fails to see or acknowledge just how important you are in his life, LEAVE!
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CASE 4:
Guy hits on Girl B only to learn that her best friend is his ex-girlfriend, A whom he secretly had never been able to let go since their break up. He had always regarded their split to be one of unrequited love.
He tries to find ways to chat with Girl A without Girl B’s knowledge but it seems like she’s avoiding him.
To guys:
Come clean.
To girls:
Good guys are hard to find but good friends are even harder.
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So there, hopefully, by doing this, I’ll be sparing friends of love victims the agony of repeating their advices over and over again.
Anyway, a couple of updates:
Case 1: Guy snaps out of love blindness and finally displays signs of common sense.
Case 3: Guy and Girl are now in a relationship – yes, they realized that they’re meant for each other… finally, heh.
Note: the love victims were males
Wednesday, July 22, 2009
hearties on holiday
No dates...
No stress...
No men...
Well, except for the polite men who graciously welcomed and greeted us like royalty :)
The hearties found time to escape to an undisclosed haven. It was amazing that despite little planning, everything fell into place and the hearties were all available those same days.
Good to know that we haven't lost our sense of spontaneity :)
Can't wait for our next stop, hearties.
Please grab your passports!
*Pls click on image to view in better resolution.
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
love advice from a man
was surfing around and stumbled upon this on dailycandy.com. the lone male editor of this online mag answers some of the most frequently asked qns we ladies ask...
Q: Brains or beauty? Really?
A: Say the following sentence aloud:
I met a guy last night, and he is sooo hot!
Now say this one:
I met a guy last night, and he is sooo smart!
Which one sounds more accurate?
barren: hey, i'd swoon over a smart guy too! single ones are rare species y'know...
Q: How do I move on after a breakup in the least painful way?
A: I’m not saying you should fool around with a bunch of men, but if your mom were to call up and advise you to fool around with a bunch of men, I’d say listen to your mother.
barren: ok, my momma would never say that. but i always say, the best way to get over a man is in the arms of another. rebound does work in some cases!
Q: How early can you sleep with a guy without being considered a whore?
A: 6 a.m.
Q: My boyfriend said he would prefer that I dress sluttier. He didn’t go in to detail. What exactly does he mean?
A: Assuming your boyfriend doesn’t want you to dress like a hooker, I would guess that by “sluttier,” he means sexier. Meaning, the next time you try something on and think, “I’m too old to wear this,” that is exactly what he wants you to wear. The next time he takes you on a date, surprise him with a short skirt, low-cut top, and a thesaurus.
Q: What does it mean when a guy doesn’t call you the next day after you spend the night with him for the first time?
A: It can mean any number of things: that he lost your phone number, that he was in a tragic skiing accident, or that the experience of being with you was so emotionally overwhelming that he needs an entire 24 hours to compose himself. But usually it means he’s too busy carving a notch in his bedpost to get to the phone.
barren: lol! one of the major failings of us girls is that we give the guy too much credit!
Q: My boyfriend treats me well, includes me in everything, and is a great guy. But after one year of dating, he refuses to tell me he loves me. I am starting to feel very insecure.
A: The use of the L-bomb is entirely subjective.
barren: a totally guy answer. tsk tsk.
Q: Are men truly intimidated by smart, successful women, or is that just something unattractive girls tell themselves to make them feel better about being single?
A: Let’s just say that there aren’t that many smart, successful, really friggin’ hot women filling up the singles mixers.
Q: Why do guys say, “I’ll call you,” when they know they have no intention of ever calling? Why don’t they have the balls to just say, “Had fun, but I don’t think we should do this again”?
A: For the same reason you say it’s no big deal when your boyfriend says a skirt doesn’t look good on you, when in reality you die a little inside. It’s just easier that way. Do yourself a favor and, when a guy leaves after saying he’ll call, automatically assume he gets hit by a truck. That way if he calls you, you’ll be pleasantly surprised.
barren: mental note: remember to assume my date is dead if he doesnt call.
Q: Why is it that guys act attentive and then suddenly, without reason, disappear and become totally unreachable?
A: Sounds like you’ve fallen for the oldest trick in the book – it’s called dating. For weeks on end a man will be very nice to you (dinners, movies, midpriced wine) until he realizes he doesn’t like you after all, at which point he will vanish. Either that, or you’ve been unknowingly dating international spies.
barren: lotsa james bond wannabes in my dating list...
Q: My boyfriend and I just broke up. I want to start dating again, but most of my friends are partnered up, and I don’t go out to the bars a ton anymore. Any suggestions?
A: Do what most guys do: Treat every possible destination (the grocery store, public transportation, elevators) as a place to find love. Soon you’ll be so fed up that bars will be fun again.
Q: My ex-boyfriend drunk texts me at 2 a.m. saying he wants to meet up for drinks to celebrate his birthday. The next day I reply saying, “Sure let me know when and where.” But then he replies that he’s still recovering from too much birthday celebration. What gives?
A: I stopped reading at “the next day,” and I’m assuming he did, too.
Q: Does putting out on the first date pretty much guarantee that the relationship will never be anything serious?
A: No, but it does guarantee that everyone had a good time.
Q: Should you keep in contact with an ex-boyfriend after he breaks up with you?
A: Do you keep in touch with old bosses after they fire you?
barren: i do! for both the ex AND the bosses. lol
Q: Why can’t I find Mr. Right? I’m a single, attractive physician who just turned 30, and I can’t even seem to find a date, let alone make a relationship work! What on earth am I doing wrong?
A: First of all, stop talking about Twilight. We don’t understand it, nor do we want to. Second, stop looking for Mr. Right and just settle for Mr. Good in Bed or Mr. Does My Taxes or Mr. Cooks Me Dinner. It’s not lowering your standards; it’s raising your limitations.
barren: mr cooks me dinner sounds like a great potential candidate...
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
what is that?
Love is patience.
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(Updated 26 July 09)
The above is a Greek short film made in 2007. I just discovered a Petronas advertisement for Hari Raya which bore the same storyline. It also dates back in 2007.
Interesting to watch the same story in different setting. (Advertisement is in Malay.)
Sunday, July 12, 2009
the one who fell in love with my friend
do you believe in serendipity?
I got to know mr y from irc (hey it WAS hot then, no judging!). As we got to talking, he found out I was from a certain polytechnic, and told me his cousin was studying there too. And it turned out that I did know her, although she's from a different course.
On our first date, as we were on the bus home, we made another discovery after asking each other which sec sch we came from. He asked me if I knew this girl, and it only turned out to be one of my good friends, who was my classmate for... oh, I dunno... all 4 years there? Then it hit me, as I recalled my friend telling us about her first love. Tadaa.... mr y! But that was eons ago, when they were both too young to love (I think).
Now at that time, I was close to this girl, ms e, and we'd talk to each other for hours, complain about boy problems (mainly hers) and entertain ourselves by teasing boys on irc. I told her about mr y and she was excited that I got to know a nice boy. Once, both of them were online and I think we got to group chatting. Or rather, I opened up a channel just for the 3 of us (it's not exactly msn) and introduced them both.
Ms e was a very outgoing and friendly girl... the kind who can talk and make friends with anyone. From the chat, I saw that they hit it off pretty well. Details are a bit fuzzy now (pls pardon me, this happened way back in poly before the millenium) but I think mr y's cousin was having a bbq party at east coast the next day. So on the channel, ms e and I were planning to meet first and get the present before heading to east coast. And for some reason, mr y offered to follow us to go orchard and suggested we make our way to the party together. I'm not that dense so I kinda sensed something there...
A sense of which came true when we all met the next day. I never believed in love at first sight, but I believe that's what happened to mr y that day, right before my eyes. It's kinda amazing how well they hit it off, both mildly flirting with each other, the way he was looking at her, totally enamored. I told myself, “He's hooked.”
And true enough, the day after the bbq, mr y called me and told me he's so into my friend. Duh! It really wasn't any surprise and honestly, I didnt even feel jealous or anything. I was young then and although mr y was a very, very nice guy, I wasnt that affected. Ok maybe just a little bit, but there was nothing going on with mr y and I in the first place anyway.
So they did hook up and got engaged a few years later. After another couple of years, they broke up for a year I think. But thankfully, they got back together and got married! I was invited of course, even though we lost contact for a long while. At the wedding dinner, the bride and groom were telling their guests about their love story, and they gave their special thanks to me for bringing them both together :) it was all very sweet until they called out my name to ask me to stage. Gah!
There I was in the back, willing myself to look invisible so they couldnt spot me. Lol! Well, I did say hello to them on my way in, so they KNEW I was there...
Bride: Ms barren, ms barren... please show yourself. I think we all want to see who's our matchmaker...
Groom: Tadi dia ade tau, mana dia eh? (She was just here, where is she now?)
It's sweet that they want to give due credit to moi but so embarrassing la! I made it up by showing up at the end to congratulate them...
Looking back, it's kinda funny how things turned out. But I'm glad I had a hand in bringing two people together :)
I got to know mr y from irc (hey it WAS hot then, no judging!). As we got to talking, he found out I was from a certain polytechnic, and told me his cousin was studying there too. And it turned out that I did know her, although she's from a different course.
On our first date, as we were on the bus home, we made another discovery after asking each other which sec sch we came from. He asked me if I knew this girl, and it only turned out to be one of my good friends, who was my classmate for... oh, I dunno... all 4 years there? Then it hit me, as I recalled my friend telling us about her first love. Tadaa.... mr y! But that was eons ago, when they were both too young to love (I think).
Now at that time, I was close to this girl, ms e, and we'd talk to each other for hours, complain about boy problems (mainly hers) and entertain ourselves by teasing boys on irc. I told her about mr y and she was excited that I got to know a nice boy. Once, both of them were online and I think we got to group chatting. Or rather, I opened up a channel just for the 3 of us (it's not exactly msn) and introduced them both.
Ms e was a very outgoing and friendly girl... the kind who can talk and make friends with anyone. From the chat, I saw that they hit it off pretty well. Details are a bit fuzzy now (pls pardon me, this happened way back in poly before the millenium) but I think mr y's cousin was having a bbq party at east coast the next day. So on the channel, ms e and I were planning to meet first and get the present before heading to east coast. And for some reason, mr y offered to follow us to go orchard and suggested we make our way to the party together. I'm not that dense so I kinda sensed something there...
A sense of which came true when we all met the next day. I never believed in love at first sight, but I believe that's what happened to mr y that day, right before my eyes. It's kinda amazing how well they hit it off, both mildly flirting with each other, the way he was looking at her, totally enamored. I told myself, “He's hooked.”
And true enough, the day after the bbq, mr y called me and told me he's so into my friend. Duh! It really wasn't any surprise and honestly, I didnt even feel jealous or anything. I was young then and although mr y was a very, very nice guy, I wasnt that affected. Ok maybe just a little bit, but there was nothing going on with mr y and I in the first place anyway.
So they did hook up and got engaged a few years later. After another couple of years, they broke up for a year I think. But thankfully, they got back together and got married! I was invited of course, even though we lost contact for a long while. At the wedding dinner, the bride and groom were telling their guests about their love story, and they gave their special thanks to me for bringing them both together :) it was all very sweet until they called out my name to ask me to stage. Gah!
There I was in the back, willing myself to look invisible so they couldnt spot me. Lol! Well, I did say hello to them on my way in, so they KNEW I was there...
Bride: Ms barren, ms barren... please show yourself. I think we all want to see who's our matchmaker...
Groom: Tadi dia ade tau, mana dia eh? (She was just here, where is she now?)
It's sweet that they want to give due credit to moi but so embarrassing la! I made it up by showing up at the end to congratulate them...
Looking back, it's kinda funny how things turned out. But I'm glad I had a hand in bringing two people together :)
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