We often hear ppl say that the course of true love never runs smooth. And that you have to overcome obstacles before you find bliss at the end of the line. That hardships will give way to happiness eventually. That if we just hold on and persevere, we shall be rewarded with a love that stood the test of time and troubled waters, making it that much sweeter.
On the other hand, I’ve been personally told that if the person is not right for you, then some sort of higher power will not make that path easy for you. That we should take these obstacles as ‘signs’ that things are not meant to be.
So which is which? Someone said that if you’re meant to be with someone, there are bound to be obstacles but you will eventually come out of them or are able to solve them together, making your relationship stronger.
So we must figure out if these obstacles are ‘solvable’ or not, to determine if we should hold on or let go?
I never found out. But let go anyway.
How about you?
I decided to reply to your previous questions here instead since this post practically says it all. (It really is scary how you seem to read my mind sometimes!)
ReplyDeleteAnyway, long story short, he became distant suddenly and blamed it on stress of work. Call it women's intuition or whatever, but I can feel that something is drastically different. I just haven't had the energy to get into this battle with him regarding this issue. I mean, heck, I'm a working woman who is constantly stressed but I make time for him don't I? He denies that anything had changed though.
What is scary is the fact that, sad to say, it doesn't hurt. I do miss his company and his jovial self. But perhaps, it was more a case of me enjoying the attention. I mean, who doesn't enjoy having someone flirting and going crazy over you? So perhaps it was more of a crush on my part rather than that elusive thing called 'love'?
The most crucial thing is...ever since we met I never stopped praying for guidance. It was along the lines of 'Should I or should I not?'. The reason why I did this was because, there were quite a few things that just did not add up and they were bugging me. At one point, I actually asked for the feelings to be gone if he is really not meant/not good for me. I guess you gotta be careful what you pray for!
So in answer to the post above about obstacles, Allah knows best. Ask for help and insya Allah you will get it.
However, are we prepared to accept the outcome?
hey, ur situation sounds scarily like mine a few years back... or do guys just say the same thing to us? better not be the same guy sudah la. lol!
ReplyDeletesometimes our heart tells us something, gives us warning signals, albeit in a teeny voice that's so easy to ignore. at tat time, i ignored those warnings, and it turned out there was something terribly wrong after all... even when the signs are there, i chose not to take heed. maybe coz its not wat i wanted deep inside? even tho i did let go, it wasnt fast enough.
but u sound like u got a good head on ur shoulders, jaded. watever choice u make, follow ur heart and the guidance tat u've been shown. we'll pray for ur happiness :)
Hey thanks barren! That is so sweet!
ReplyDeleteOn one hand, I may indeed sound like I have a good head on my shoulders. On the other hand, others might just say I am being my usual cynical, jaded self!
You are absolutely right about that teeny tiny voice...which is rather annoying when it goes unheeded!
signs signs signs... who are we to know that some things are clues from God leading us to THE ONE or that they are actually things planted to distract us along the way to 'test' our determination.
ReplyDeletethis had once had me go so crazy. (it didn't help reading "the alchemist" by Paul Coelho at the same time too)...
jaded, like you, i am what everyone would say a cynic. while often i choose to place my faith in ppl and situations, there's a dark side of me that wouldn't be surprised if things go awry my way.
i don't have a solution for any of this. i have learnt to put in my best (and by best I mean never going against my own principles). so that if things don't go my way, i can fully accept that it's not meant to be.
barren is right, just follow your heart and feel your guidance. sometimes we women already know the answer deep down - we just need assurance.